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Lazy aka lousy friendI was meditating on the notion of friendship and I came across a though of how some friends are just lazy and how I don't want to be one of those.
Here is what I mean.
Some friendships are easy and undemanding, like being friends with the kid next door, when you're six, 'cause you go to the same school, at the same time, you play together at school and after school and all that. It's a natural, easy going and fulfilling relationship. Both parts are satisfied equally and completely.
Other friendships however, are not that simple. When you're 26 and working, away from the place where you were a kid and went to school, it's not easy to keep in touch with all your friends. (This obviously applies to all the friends which don't live close to where you currently live.)
Long distance relationships, no matter what kind of relationships they are, always involve a lot more hard work to make things flow and they don't always work out.
I have noticed lately that I go to a lot of trouble to keep in
Sitting in carsHave you ever noticed it?
Remember all the nice places you've visited? All the wonderful towns you've seen because you've stopped and actually got out of your car to walk around...
But there is a problem. Some people out there are missing out! They go to these wonderful places and just sit in their cars!
It's unbelievable. I've seen this happen at the beach, on the mountains and even in the cozy little towns that make you feel like going into a shop and getting a souvenir of that place that no one knows. When you're enjoying such a place look closer and you'll see these people too!
It's mostly and older person thing, but not exclusive, since I've seen people from all age groups doing this.
Help them! Knock on their car window and say "It looks a lot better from out here!"
I'm sure it's very relaxing to read a newspaper on Sunday and just let time creep by slowly, but why not do it sitting on the sand instead of sitting in you car with the windows rolled down, in that parking lot next t
How are you?Have you noticed what happens when people greet each other these days?
Sample conversation of two people passing by in the hall at work:
-Hi there John! How's it going?
-Hey Bill! What's up?
What's missing in this conversation?
There are now actual responses to the "how are you?" "how's it going?" or "What's up?" questions!
We have turned them into retorical questions! This is ridiculous? Why would you ask someone how they're doing if you have no intention of listening?
Now try this. Next time somebody ask you something of the sort, give them an actual answer!
It's funny because most people will be caught by surprise and there will be an awkward silence in which that person will look at you and you'll almost be able to see that person think "I wasn't expecting an actual answer..."
Slow down people! Listen to one another!
The end of long relationshipsIt always gets you thinking. What went wrong? Who did what wrong?
And sometimes you realize that nobody messed up, it just wasn't meant to go any further.
Still you can't help but to feel the void that a person that was in your life, meaningfully, for a long time leaves when you break up. How do you get over that? Personally I've been spending more time with friends (and strangers too for that matter) and doing all sorts of stuff that I've wanted to do for a really long time. Because one thing is true, for a good lasting relationship you have to give up some of the things you do for yourself.
The good thing about being out of a relationship is that you get all that back. You don't have to debate about what do to on the weekend or whose friends you're going to hang out with on a given night. Just go out and do your own thing! Go play a card game with friends, sit at your computer all night playing games, go out and have a few beers with your mates when you'd normally think it's already
Floating ideasSometimes I feel like I could write a book with what goes on in my head. A whole best selling adventure divided into multiple trilogies for that matter.
But I think I wouldn't know were to start. My thoughts are too random, too fleeting... sometimes I manage to put something down on my cell phone or a piece of paper, and that will help my wondering mind go back to that interesting thought and down the same line when I really want to write about it. Still it's not a dependable system.
So don't expect anything grand from [my writing] because all my best ideas and thoughts might just float out the window when I'm distracted thinking about them.
Global happinessThere are so many of us in this world, have you tried to imagine everyone? What would it take for everyone to be happy? Would the world even work if everyone was happy? Do you remember that line from the Matrix movie?
"Agent Smith: Did you know that the first Matrix was designed to be a perfect human world? Where none suffered, where everyone would be happy. It was a disaster. No one would accept the program."
I think we are the greatest obstacle to our own happiness.
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